Hey guys, how are you? I hope that you are doing well, I am doing well, I went to the doctor for my annual checkup, and I’ve lost 12 pounds since 2016. I know you’re probably thinking, oh my gosh what is taking you so long. But, when I saw how over weight I was, and my doctor told me I was prediabetic and prehypertensive, I panicked like many of you and started dieting, prepacked meals and shakes. Then I realized, I am just going to this belly until it slowly disappears, so I switched to regular exercise and good food. But I am so off track, and I am sorry. Because. Today I am asking the question, do you believe that happiness is a choice.
In the field of social services, as a health coach and as a parent advocate, I have worked with some of the most amazing women you will ever meet. We usually meet when they are in crisis, they are overwhelmed, either by health concerns, parenting concerns or both. I ask them all the same question I am posing to you today. There answer to the question lets me know where we need to get started. Many of them did not believe happiness was a choice they were able to make for themselves. They thought that life was out of there control. In other words, you live, you died. Things happened to you in between some good some bad, and you kinda roll with the punches.
I understand how why they would feel that way. I had a rough childhood, so I learned from an early age, that you had to fight happiness. And it wasn’t going to always be easy, but you couldn’t give up. Because, I wasn’t just fighting for happiness for happiness sake, I was fighting for me, and increasing the depth of my resiliency. Now I know better than anyone that things will happen that you have no control over, like the death of someone you love, the loss of a job, a marriage or relationship that ends. I have suffered all these things. These life events are out of your control. You must make the decision to focus on what is in your control.
I want you to consider three things that you can do to increase your level of happiness. Don’t panic, you don’t have to do them all at once, pick one thing and work on it for 21 days, that seems to be the standard time, all the gurus espouse as enough time to begin to promote habit change, and allow them to take root. First, creating a real self-care plan, second, take a good look at who is sharing your space, and third, giving back to your community, and finally, don’t wait to lose weight before you live.
Self-Care: drink more water, figure out how much sleep you need and get it, turn off the television and read a book, create an evening routine that allows you to take a step back from your day and unwind.
Who shares your space: but make sure that everyone who shares your space brings positive energy to your life. Sometimes, friendships run their course, family members are not always supportive, nothing will zap your happiness like having to explain. It can be hard but don’t expect you to be walking around giddy all day.
Give Back to Your Community: Some of my happiness times were delivering meals to the elderly or mentoring young women who were first generation college students. When you spend time helping someone else to discover their purpose or live their dream. You can’t help but feel a little bit more satisfied with your life.
But What I want you to know deep in your spirit, that your level of happiness is directly linked to the choices that you make. So, then the question becomes, what are you willing to do to create happiness? How proactive are you willing to be to seek happiness in your own life?
Are you willing to give up a relationship that is causing you pain?
Are you willing to get up earlier so that you can walk 30 minutes before going to work?
Are you willing to spend some time organizing your household so that it runs more smoothly?
Are you willing to do the work on yourself that will help you heal?
You are the only one that can answer those questions and while you may be able to manufacture happiness by drinking, shopping, eating, or etc.
You will not be able to find real happiness until you began to work on you. Your happiness is defined by taking control of what you can control.
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