Listen to Episode 49 of Welcome to Your Life! Midlife Made Easier Podcast: You Can Create a Life That Is Balanced and Joyful
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Today we are talking about how to create and live a balanced life. I know that that can be difficult to achieve considering the times we live in now. But I hope that today’s post will give you some insight into how to accomplish this. Now, if you can listen with a pen and piece of paper close by, that would be very helpful, as I will be asking you to answer some reflective questions to create a picture to determine how balanced your life is now.
Why am I talking about living a balanced life? Because we spend so much time compartmentalizing the various areas of our lives, trying to ensure that everything has its own place. Our relationships, career, money, exercise, health, but we all know that our whole lives will be affected if one area is out of whack.
Imagine having tons of money, the house, and the career you want. But not being able to enjoy it because your health is failing. That is not an exaggeration. I had my dream job and was at least 30 pounds overweight and trying to reverse diabetes and prehypertension. When a part of your life is not in line with your life’s other aspects, you will begin to enjoy your lifeless and less as you struggle to get it back on track.
It is crucial to think of your life as one holistic pie and decide to put your energy into making every piece of that pie as yummy as possible. Forgive the pie metaphor, but I am giving up sweets for Lent.
What would creating a life that is balanced and enjoyable look like?
Your first step would be to take a real and honest look at your life in every area. So many times, we let the fear of change stop us from making moves in our lives that we know will set us free.
Fear of change is real and can be the number one reason that we stay stuck in unhealthy and unhappy areas of our lives. We convince ourselves that it is easier to keep the familiar mess we know rather than finding the creativity and energy to make the changes we need to be happy.
My job as your coach is to help you begin the process of imagining what your life would be like if you gathered your courage and made the necessary changes you need to make to create a happy and balanced life. Before you ask, yes, you can have a happy and balanced life because this is not available for lucky people or blessed people.
Now, this is where your pen and paper will come in handy? The self-reflective questions I am about to ask you will help you to decide if you need to make changes in your life.
Are you getting things done on your own, but could use some report?
Do you want to build a healthier relationship with food?
Do you eat when you are bored, angry, sad, or stressed out?
Do you want to develop a deeper connection to yourself and others?
Do you want to be empowered to be your own health expert?
Do you want more confidence, energy, and self-acceptance?
Do you want to be held accountable to show up for yourself?
Are you looking outside of yourself for love, support, and acceptance?
I want you to take the time to answer these questions because this is the first step towards reducing your stress and healing your emotional health.
Once you have answered the questions, I want you to use your answers to create a plan that will help you begin nurturing yourself. This is something we can not turn over to the hands of others. I am talking to all my romantics out there; believe me, I know how you feel. I spent the whole day recently watching Hallmark romantic comedies and saying to myself, if my husband would just be like the characters in these movies, I would feel fantastic, and our marriage would be excellent.
Nurturing must begin with us; this is how we teach others how to treat us.
Your next step is to create priorities. Have you ever woken up in the morning, dreading the start of your day? You have so many things pulling at your time and energy you want to turn off the alarm and remove the cover over your head.
Prioritizing your life will help you reduce you overwhelm and focus on the items in your day that must get done, bringing you joy.
I know that some days would be impossible to find balance, but that cannot be our daily existence. It might be that it has been years since your life appeared to be in a healthy balance, but that does not mean that with the right action, you cannot make things right.
It is time for you to embrace and create the best life you can now! You can decide where to put energies each day and make the life you want to live, so you do not get stuck living the life you have.
With Peace and Love,
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